Q1. On social media, I sometimes see profiles that give off a very strong impression. Do you think that helps or hurts their influence?
A1. Well, if someone wants to increase their influence, sometimes that kind of presentation can actually hold them back. Of course, expressing individuality is perfectly fine, and I don’t mean to deny strong self-expression itself. But before people think, “I’d like to hear what this person has to say,” they might already feel, “This is a bit intimidating,” and turn away. So I feel the impression of appearance is larger than we often assume.
Q2. Then, not just online but also in real life, should we pay attention to our appearance?
A2. Yes, I believe so. What matters most is certainly what’s inside. But in order for others to get to know your inside, they first need to open the door. That “door” is often appearance, grooming, or even your expression.
Q3. How does appearance actually make a difference in daily life?
A3. There are several ways. First, having a sense of cleanliness or calmness helps others feel at ease when listening to you. Second, when first impressions work positively, unexpected opportunities and connections may arise. And third, for yourself, it works as a switch—“Alright, I’ve set myself in order.” These small things accumulate and make a difference.
Q4. Are social media and real life really that similar?
A4. Yes, I think they are more alike than we realize. In both, what people first encounter is the “entrance.” If that entrance gives reassurance, then people will listen to what you have inside. But if the entrance makes them wary, then no matter how valuable your content is, it may never be received.
Q5. Have you personally experienced the power of appearance?
A5. Yes, I recall my days as a Buddhist priest. When I went out for memorial visits in the morning, passersby would bow respectfully to me. I was still a very young and inexperienced priest, so clearly they weren’t bowing to “me” as a person, but rather to the robes, the shaved head, the entire appearance. People naturally adjusted their posture in response to that. I was never looked down upon.
That said, the outfit was heavy on the shoulders, and I couldn’t casually step into a convenience store or restroom. When necessary, I had to carefully take off and fold the robes before going in. Handling the robes with respect was always a time-consuming task. But through this, I clearly felt how appearance both influences people and, in a sense, “protects” you. Another way of putting it is: appearance can guard you.
Q6. But isn’t putting effort into appearance just superficial decoration?
A6. Some may feel that way. But to me, it’s not deception—it’s a way to encourage openness. Just like tidying up your profile picture online, real-life appearance and expressions are doors to help your inner self reach others.
Q7. Finally, could you share a personal story about your own appearance?
A7. Yes. Even now, I’ve lived most of my life with a shaved head. In Jodo Shinshu Buddhism, shaving is only required at ordination, not as a lifelong rule, but I grew used to it and stayed this way. The benefit is simple: it feels light and comfortable.
The downside, though, is that I often look intimidating. Strangers sometimes think, “This person looks scary.” Because of that, I never really had much of a romantic life and remain single, living alone. But considering the times, and also the fact that my parents had an unhappy arranged marriage, I feel this has been a good path for me after all.
So I’ve come to realize: appearance can both protect you and confine you. That’s something I reflect on while touching my own head today.
Japanese version (note):
「見た目は中身の入口？元坊さんが、坊主頭で暮らして気づいたこと」
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